Forgiveness Heals and Helps You Live


He was so hard on me. I didn’t get to have sleepovers. I didn’t get to go off to friends’ houses. I couldn’t even ride the school bus to school like the other children. He hired someone to drive me to school when he or Mom couldn’t take me. I truly lived a very protected and sheltered life. I spent my summers studying for the next school year and he had me speaking in front of the church before I was sixteen years old. During my senior year of high school, he arranged for me to be the keynote luncheon speaker at Halifax Community College. He prepped me and he pushed me.

Daddy even yelled at me most of the time when he pushed me most. I honestly thought he was so mean. I cried many times trying to win his approval. He made me write ALL the time and corrected my papers–with his red pen. The papers were bleeding for years until finally that great day came when he said, “Excellent job!”. Out of the pain of his pushing came a great miracle. He was my “agent” and I didn’t even know it. He was always preparing me for something and sending me to academic summer programs at different colleges before I even went to college. I didn’t understand it then, but I do now. I am so thankful that he cared enough to push me. Needless to say, I graduated Valedictorian of my high school class, had a career in Journalism before I graduated from college, and have been soaring ever since.

Today, I am thanking God for the fact that my father, James A. Parker, is alive and celebrated his 78th birthday this year. (I thought he was 80 but who’s counting–he’s still over three-fourths of a century strong) He is such a kinder, gentler yet still a very strong and wise man even in these golden years in spite of it all. God has kept him. He is a proud man who provided an upper middle class life for his family and was not perfect but because God works everything together to my good, he is and will always be the perfect Dad for me. Every single time he says he loves me still today, the child inside of me still rejoices and feels complete knowing she is loved. Once a Daddy’s girl, always a Daddy’s girl.

Thank you, Daddy, for the days you yelled and thanks for the days you didn’t. He showed me love the best way he knew how. To this day, he still does–and by the way, he doesn’t yell anymore. Appreciation for life as one ages has a way of bringing a sense of peace and humility. Watching him age over the course of my life has not been easy but I have learned to forgive and remember what matters most about him. That has helped to make all the difference for me as I continue my own life’s journey. I choose to heal so I can live.

I’m still maintaining your legacy of excellence, Daddy…and I promise in the love department, I’ll get it right this second time around (knowing I am loved) in time for you to walk me down the aisle because you still have miles to go before you sleep in Jesus’ name. ‪#‎Thankful‬

So if you or a loved one are having trouble making amends with either their parents or someone close to them, encourage them to forgive and remember the important things. Don’t concentrate on forgetting. Concentrate on remembering the positive. That’s where the true healing begins. Choose to heal today so you can truly live. #LiveLOVEdaily

Published by Toy Parker

Toy Parker of, currently ignites the lives of audiences as an emcee, radio, and television host while on the speaking circuit against all odds through her #IGNITEyourLife platform and movement. (IGNITE = Inspiring Growth Now with Intensity and Transparent Energy) Her work over her past 20 plus years in broadcasting alone while overcoming life's challenges, has been featured on The Word Network, FOX, CBS, ABC, and various radio stations around the world. Toy is a professional level empowerment and wellness speaker with 20 plus years experience in empowering audiences in cities, universities, corporations, churches and groups of all sizes. By the grace of God, her #IGNITEyourLife platform has also expanded to include but is not limited to a Radio and Television Network which has a worldwide audience of listeners and viewers. This dynamic radio and television show host is referred to as the Breakthrough BOSS and Empowerment Engineer who helps everyone she encounters breakthrough fears and challenges to achieve the success in love, life and business they deserve today! She is also a featured empowerment expert on, the number one self-help website on the Internet. To read her full bio, read excerpts from her upcoming books, and to view projects that showcase her media prowess, be sure to visit today! Additionally, Toy's corporate materials created on diversity within the healthcare industry have been featured in publications for Cigna. Her sales and marketing materials created for Hendrick Automotive Group are still used to date for Hendrick Buick Cadillac and GMC. She is a Modelpreneur, Empowerment Speaker, Creative Content, Marketing and Media Strategist who was recently named one of the top Media Professionals of 2014. She is also a former North Carolina spokesmodel for Covergirl, Oil of Olay, Cadillac and other reputable companies in the United States and abroad. Her books and articles of empowerment are published worldwide and she is ready to connect with you today! Main Areas: Love, Life, and Business Empowerment Best Sellers: #LiveLOVEdaily: Living Our Vision Everyday Poetry and Wisdom Collection, #IGNITEyourLife: Ultimate Sparks for a 30 Day Breakthrough Career Focus: Author, Speaker, Creative Content Marketing and Media Strategist Affiliation: #IGNITEyourLife with Toy Parker Network, #IGNITEyourLife with Toy Parker Breakthrough Institute, Live Wire Productions Plus, Village Connector TV Network, Abundance Society, Women Speakers Association, Peak Performers Institute

4 thoughts on “Forgiveness Heals and Helps You Live

  1. My aunt used to always say, “”Forgiveness is the fragrance that the violet sheds on the heel that has crushed it.”

    For some people, forgiveness is very difficult. Many do not understand that forgiveness can be the quickest way to self-healing. Blockages can disappear by simply saying “I forgive you” or by feeling forgiveness in the heart.

    Rachel recently posted The 16 Habits of Highly Unsuccessful Women


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