Separation Anxiety: How to Cope and Sieze the Day!

When you can't be with that special someone - touch them with prayer.
When you can’t be with that special someone – touch them with prayer.

What do you do when you miss someone so much that it is hard to focus and the days seem longer and longer? What do you do when you are able to focus but at the end of the day you still miss that special someone? What do you do when you know it is good to be away from your child or children for a little while but you somehow in some crazy way actually miss them calling your name every five minutes and trying to be up under you EVERY SINGLE SECOND of every day?

Anxiety is defined by the medical section of as  “a feeling of apprehension, uncertainty, and fear without apparent stimulus, associated with physiological changes (tachycardia, sweating, tremor, etc.)”  In many cases, feelings about the loved one is the ‘apparent stimulus’ that yields to many sleepless nights, workaholic tendencies, and for a few some very unproductive and self-defeating behaviors that prevent one one from living the full life of love they actually long for.

So yes, separation anxiety is very real and millions, if not more, deal with it every single day. Some have a longer duration than others but the emotions felt are very dominant in the lives of those affected. Now is the time to examine and assess the healthiest ways to cope. Let’s take a moment to go inward and soar!

Here are five time-proven tips on how to handle separation anxiety from a loved one whether it’s a long-distance relationship, a child away for the summer, a caregiver who is miles away from their loved one or simply missing close friends from high school, college, or former colleagues.

(1) Pray/meditate daily. Sometimes all we need to do is just simply re-center so we can be in a happy place. Happiness starts with you. It is natural to miss someone you love.  In the Amplified Bible, Philippians 4:8 says: For the rest, brethren, whatever is true, whatever is worthy of reverence and is honorable and seemly, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely and lovable, whatever is kind and winsome and gracious, if there is any virtue and excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think on and weigh and take account of these things [fix your minds on them]. This must be a daily practice and brings us to our next tip.

(2) Stay positive no matter what. Yes, this is easier said than done, but if you make a conscious decision to live in each present moment and enjoy the happiness of these moments as opposed to entertaining thoughts of fear (false evidence appearing real) of events that have not happened, or of even past events — you are more likely to stay in a positive frame of mind. This is key for dealing with separation anxiety of any level.

(3) Do things you enjoy most and feel the joy. God is allowing this time apart to take place so make the most of it. For those in relationships, be sure to walk in integrity and do things that you will enjoy sharing with your spouse or significant other. For parents, the same applies and use this time to think of new and exciting things to do with your children that will create long-lasting memories of a lifetime. Absence truly makes the heart grow fonder. Have something great to share with your special someone when you reunite. For long-distance caregivers, look for things that you may want to share with your loved one upon your next visit.

(4) Remember the good times. While waiting for that wonderful phone call or return call, text or that next visit, remember the great times you share together and enjoy those warm feelings. This will attract the great things you actually desire to happen because you are in a state of creating moments of happiness which only brings even more happiness your way. Simply stated: Stay in a place of pure love and love has no choice but to return back to you.

(5) Express gratitude, starve your fears and grow your faith.  FAITH is Forward Action In Trusting Him. Give thanks for the fact that you have someone to miss. Give thanks for the fact that you know you are loved. Do not listen to the whispers of fear and doubt. Those are lies. Love covers all and heals all.  Starve your fears and grow your faith. Trust God with your life and those you love.  If you lost a loved one, it is imperative that you give thanks for the love received from your loved one and give thanks for the great memories you have. Cherish the memories. Try your very best to celebrate the life they lived through your life that you now continue to live with courage, thankfulness and faith.

No matter what end of the spectrum of separation anxiety you are experiencing today, know that you are not alone. Be sure to take it one step at a time – one moment at a time – one day at a time by faith, which worketh only by love. Each and every moment of every single day — be sure to be maintain your emotions in a pure place of love. Love casts out fear.  Be Yourself. Be Love and Live Love –then watch abundance and peace flow through you!

Published by Toy Parker

Toy Parker of, currently ignites the lives of audiences as an emcee, radio, and television host while on the speaking circuit against all odds through her #IGNITEyourLife platform and movement. (IGNITE = Inspiring Growth Now with Intensity and Transparent Energy) Her work over her past 20 plus years in broadcasting alone while overcoming life's challenges, has been featured on The Word Network, FOX, CBS, ABC, and various radio stations around the world. Toy is a professional level empowerment and wellness speaker with 20 plus years experience in empowering audiences in cities, universities, corporations, churches and groups of all sizes. By the grace of God, her #IGNITEyourLife platform has also expanded to include but is not limited to a Radio and Television Network which has a worldwide audience of listeners and viewers. This dynamic radio and television show host is referred to as the Breakthrough BOSS and Empowerment Engineer who helps everyone she encounters breakthrough fears and challenges to achieve the success in love, life and business they deserve today! She is also a featured empowerment expert on, the number one self-help website on the Internet. To read her full bio, read excerpts from her upcoming books, and to view projects that showcase her media prowess, be sure to visit today! Additionally, Toy's corporate materials created on diversity within the healthcare industry have been featured in publications for Cigna. Her sales and marketing materials created for Hendrick Automotive Group are still used to date for Hendrick Buick Cadillac and GMC. She is a Modelpreneur, Empowerment Speaker, Creative Content, Marketing and Media Strategist who was recently named one of the top Media Professionals of 2014. She is also a former North Carolina spokesmodel for Covergirl, Oil of Olay, Cadillac and other reputable companies in the United States and abroad. Her books and articles of empowerment are published worldwide and she is ready to connect with you today! Main Areas: Love, Life, and Business Empowerment Best Sellers: #LiveLOVEdaily: Living Our Vision Everyday Poetry and Wisdom Collection, #IGNITEyourLife: Ultimate Sparks for a 30 Day Breakthrough Career Focus: Author, Speaker, Creative Content Marketing and Media Strategist Affiliation: #IGNITEyourLife with Toy Parker Network, #IGNITEyourLife with Toy Parker Breakthrough Institute, Live Wire Productions Plus, Village Connector TV Network, Abundance Society, Women Speakers Association, Peak Performers Institute

2 thoughts on “Separation Anxiety: How to Cope and Sieze the Day!

  1. When I had separations from my then-fiance (we’ll be married 39 years tomorrow) it was back in the days of letter writing. We used to write long letters to each other, almost daily. It did help. Perhaps it was a form of meditation and staying positive. I never thought of it that way.


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