Uncertainty. Fear of the unknown. What if things don’t work out? These thoughts are all a natural response to the beginning phases of something meaningful: a real relationship based on real feelings. After all, if one wasn’t concerned about the outcome, would it really be worth pursuing? Of course not. That’s because anything worth having is truly worth risking the fight to pursue it and benefit from the victory.
Redefine your destiny. Why is it that we can have so much confidence in business goals to achieve what we know deep down inside are virtually impossible? Yet, somehow, through determination, persistence and perseverance we manage to actually make what at first looked impossible happen anyway against all odds. When it comes to relationships, why do we begin to doubt our abilities to achieve success? Why do we have faith in our business risks but sometimes lack faith in risks involving relationships? The same fears of failure exist. The playing fields are even in terms of challenges. Are we more comfortable on one field than another? Examine and assess.
Increase your faith IQ beyond business risks. How does one apply the business practices to the relationship field? The playing field may be different but the rules are the same. It takes collaborative effort (teamwork), effective communication, faith in the ability to achieve (confidence), determination, perseverance, drive, focus, and all the factors that go into winning in the business world, and on the playing field in sports, to win at love.
Be innovative. Break the love barrier and dare to go into unchartered waters. After all, how is doing the same thing over and over working for you? Exactly. What good is it to be successful and have the career, and all the money you need and have not the one thing that can keep your heart smiling for a lifetime: a chance to finally get it right at love. You won’t know until you try.
Never give up. How do you know you will get it right when you set out to do anything? You don’t, but you try anyway. How do you know you will get your next promotion? You don’t, but you keep trying anyway, don’t you? Yes. Why? Because you believe that it is possible. Because you have an innate desire for success. You believe the intangible to be tangible and you attach your faith to it until it manifests. So what’s stopping you when it comes to love? The fear of the unknown. FEAR: False Evidence Appearing Real.
Face your fears and win. We face fears on a day-to-day basis in business and overcome each flying obstacle with finesse. Why not apply that very same positive perspective and high-octane energy to every field of human endeavor–including relationships? Love can be successful. Pursue. Risk. Believe. Achieve.
Spiritual food for thought: Scripturally speaking, I John 4:18 states: There is no fear in love; but perfect love casts out fear, because fear involves punishment (torment). Don’t let the devil steal your destiny. Breakthrough to the other side where the unknown is. Confidence is merely a focused positive perspective. Just as your team needs your confidence in them to succeed, your mate will need to know you believe in them too. What motivates you to succeed in business? Apply that same motivation to your love life and watch the return on your investment. Stay the course. Win. Celebrate.
I saw a wonderful Facebook status again that has been floating in cyberspace for a while now. It says: “If you’re not being treated with love and respect, check your “Price Tag.” Perhaps you have marked yourself down. It’s “you” who tells people what you’re worth by what you accept. Get off the “Clearance Rack” and get behind the glass where they keep all the VALUABLES.. Bottom line is…VALUE yourself more! Re-post if you like…you might help someone get off the CLEARANCE RACK!!!!!”
Naturally, I had to share it. If you feel compelled, by all means, do the same. I just wish I knew who the original author was so I could give him or her credit where credit is due.
Let’s think outside the box literally for a moment. Think about the clearance rack in terms of your life. Let’s get you and everything about you and associated with you off of the clearance rack and back inside the glass case where the valuables are. Your life depends on it. Investors pass by you daily. You want the right one to notice you in your love life, in friendships, your career, and in your finances. You also want to stay protected by God with His favor that surrounds you like a shield– keeping you impenetrable to invasions that set out to disrupt your peace of mind.
Let’s focus on understanding your value and determining your worth. Do you understand that you were destined to do great things? Do you believe in your ability to make a difference in the world you comprise? Do you remember that you are beautifully and wonderfully made and deserve the very best of EVERYTHING?
If not, then let’s change that today with a new self-perception. Even if you do understand these fundamental truths, let’s still make changes because if you are in an uncomfortable place in any area of your life, it would be insane to keep repeating the same actions and expect a different result.
Self-worth is a universal language. Your very entrance and presence in a room says so much about how you value yourself. Put your best foot forward everywhere you go—externally and internally. Your clothes may say one thing but your inner man may need a translation to help you get on the same page within yourself.
Never let someone else define or determine your worth. Constructive criticism for self-improvement is one thing, but never let negative words change your positive perception of yourself or make you doubt yourself. With God, all things are possible. Evaluate. Make changes. Improve. Be.
You must take responsibility for what impacts your perception of yourself starting today. What is happening in your life and how you have been treated is based on your perception of your life and your self-worth. Think bigger and better.
Get radical about your life. End all bad relationships now and do not look back. Do not engage in negative conversations whether it is by text, voice call, online social networking or even email. Get off the phone. Get off of the computer. Get back in touch with the one who can change your situation. Seek God.
I always say pursue your goals and your dreams because your very life depends on it. Challenge yourself to take each first letter in your full government name and write positive words about yourself for each letter. Post it on your mirror. Remind yourself how great you are! Get back in touch with who you really are!
Take a notebook and write down your short-term and long-term goals and develop an action plan as to how you will achieve them. Don’t wait for someone else to push your dream. Get help where needed, but above all else, tap into God’s power inside of you to help make that dream become a reality. For Him, nothing is impossible! Your life deserves it. You are worth it!
We consider quality time to be special time set aside for our loved ones. We cut our smartphones off and shutdown our laptops when it is time to be with that special someone. We don’t answer emails. We don’t answer calls. We don’t even return texts or sneak peeks at Facebook, Twitter or other social networking sites during this very special time. It is sacred.
Let’s examine our daily routine and crunch the real numbers when it comes to God’s time with us. How much time for God do we really carve out of our 24 hour day that He blessed us with? Your answer may surprise you.
Be alarmed so changes can be made where necessary. The question is, what are we going to do regarding the information we discover?
Reflect. Regroup. Improve. God is such a gentleman, He is not going to demand your time. However, at some point, willingly or unwillingly–He is going to have your undivided attention. Which way would you rather have it?
Just when we think we are spending “a lot” of time with Him, hopefully we are coming to the reality that we can always do more to make more time for God in our daily living.
When you keep your mind on Him you stay in perfect peace. Peace is priceless, just like time itself. That isn’t ironic but instead Divine Intervention from our omniscient, omnipresent, and omnipotent Father who cares about all 24 hours He blesses us with daily.
How are we spending His time? We always say, “My time is precious”. Do we need to rephrase that so we can better prioritize time? Perhaps, if we changed our perspective of time, we would consistently spend more of it praising Him and seeking His face for the course of our lives–because after all–His time is both precious and sacred.
When life’s pressures seem to crush you on every side, remember God’s promises from II Corinthians 4:8-18, that “we are troubled on every side, but not distressed; we are perplexed, but not in despair; persecuted, but not forsaken; cast down, but not destroyed…”
Let life work in you, and continuously tap into the source of peace within you–which is Jesus. Keep your mind stayed on Him so you can have a peace that passeth all understanding. Speak the opposite of all of the negative pressure that’s happening in your life through the spirit of faith.
Let your “now” faith push you out of your present undesired situation and into God’s abundant, prosperous and expectant end for your life. Remember that it is written by God that He wishes above all things that you may prosper and be in health, even as your soul “prospereth”. (continuously)
To be even more specific, meditate on this same verse of 3 John 1:2 from the Amplified Bible: “Beloved, I pray that you may prosper in every way and [that your body] may keep well, even as [I know] your soul keeps well and prospers”.
Is the pressure getting to be too much? If so, you are operating in your own strength and not God’s. Nothing is too hard for God. Therefore no matter what is going on–it is well. Be anxious for nothing but in all things give thanks to God, whose grace abounds in us. Remember, no matter what, we’re still blessed!
Writing a book is never easy. This book completion will be my greatest project ever. The title has changed slightly to Forever Toy: How to Improve Yourself while Being Yourself, but I believe it is a good fit for the market it will penetrate this fall. I have completed several books of poetry yet to be published and I’ve even started on at least five books over the years. Why this one? What makes this one so important to complete? It is the very essence of who I am and it is important that I master working on myself so I can truly help others do the same. With God, all things are possible. Right now I’m completing it while on the Beauty From Head to Toe Tour and doing other public speaking engagements.
Have you ever wondered how it is possible to be who God called you to be yet make all the necessary changes to be the best person He has called you to be?
This is a movement by FAITH to help encourage everyone to follow your dreams and never let the sky be your limit! Never let others define who you are or who you are destined to be. The key to being yourself is not allowing negative words invade your mind to change your positive perception of who you know God has called you to be.
It is my prayer that everyone will enjoy reading my book once published. Life is a series of changes. It all starts first within and then manifests into the life you live today. My goal is to constantly improve myself without losing the original person God made me. In essence, I’m returning back to my eternal state of completion in Him. It is a spiritual journey that will forever inspire, motivate and propel readers into the best part of themselves.